Edgar Tham on Resilience

There is a wonderful example given by Edgar Tham, our Coaching guru during his class on Certificate in Coaching where he got his coachee (yuks!) to do research on what is the normal time length between someone taking up a certain sport competitively and when they become championship material.

The common answer is 8 to 12 years and this very fact got his coachee to be more resilient and more motivated. Well I like to relate that to training and ask; “How long does it really take for us to become “Championship-class” Trainers?

Won’t be very different; I guess.

And then two days later I got this story on the internet that is equally inspiring;

The Bamboo and the Fern

One day I decided to quit … I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality.
I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have one last talk with God.
“God”, I said. “Can you give me one good reason not to quit?”
His answer surprised me. “Look around,” he said. “Do you see the fern and the bamboo?”
“Yes”, I replied.

“When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them.
I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth.
Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the bamboo.

In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful.
And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
In the third year, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit.
In the fourth year, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit.

Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth.
Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant.

But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots.
Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.”

He then said to me, “Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots.
I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you. Don’t compare yourself to others.

The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern, yet, they both make the forest beautiful.
Your time will come and you will rise high!”

Good days give you happiness.
Bad days give you experiences.
Both are essential to life, so keep going.

Edgar Tham is our Master Coach for our Certificate in Coaching programme and also the Certified Professional Coach programme. For more info; call
603-90596218 and ask for Angel or 65-6252968 and ask for Ikram.

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